So, I am trying to come up with some extracurricular activities for little man. My hubby and I are a little afraid to have him do Karate because of his temper. So I am looking at other options. I just got done looking through the Cub Scouts information. I am wondering if this is something we should try. My hubby was a cub and boy scout. There is one right by our house. Any input on this would be great!
Another idea I found was swimming. The information that I read says swimming is good because it uses his whole body. Good thing we have a swimming pool. Does anyone have any ideas for me? He is 6.5 so I can't put him on the track team yet! LOL
The third idea I found was football, which scares me to death because he is so little. And I'm a little hesitant because the info says most ports are no good because there is a lot of standing around time. Any input from any one would be MUCH appreciated!
Monday, July 11, 2011
Thursday, July 7, 2011
Out of the mouth of Little Man
Coming home from our weekly horseshoe night last night, we passed a car wreck. The car was a buzz with oh mys, and wonder what happeneds. And then from the back seat came this little stern voice. "Come on you guys. Let's not talk about that right now. My mom is trying to concentrate on driving. Seriously, its not our business. Lets not worry about it right now. We can talk about it when we get home!" Hubby and I looked at eachother and glanced in the back seat to make sure that all of those thgouhts came from whoo we thought. They did. We started laughing. Not the right thing to do "I said stop it. I mean it. Its not any of our problem!" Well YES SIR!
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
Things That Go Bump In The Night
This link is awesome. I no exactly how this feels. Little man and I have this at least 3 times a week. I never really knew how to sum this up. She does a great job!
Things That Go Bump In The Night
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Things That Go Bump In The Night
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Patience
"GGGRRRRRR!!!!!!" that was what I heard after telling Little man 3 times that no he could not have a sucker before dinner. "I'll hit you. I swear I will. You make me so mad! I don't love you anymore!" I hate hearing that for 2 reasons. 1. I know he will try to hit me. 2. I feel like giving in and know that I shouldn't.
After having such a great day with him on Monday, I was expecting to come home to a peaceful night. I don't know why, living with ADHD is more like a rollar coaster ride than a peaceful walk in the park. Luckily, he stormed off into the living room and saulked this time. A step in the right direction? Or collecting strength. But just like that he came back out to me in tears, "I'm sorry, mom. I take back the last part. I love you." Astonished, I just stared at him. What? So then he says "Didn't you hear me? I said I love you!" I told him I loved him too and everything I do is because I love him. "So can I have that candy now?" Ha, there it is. I'll tell mommy something she wants to hear to get my way. No, I said, not before dinner. And the cycle started over again.
I think the part that scares and worries me the most is the temper. For a 6 year old, he looks and gets evil. He knows what he is doing is wrong, but can't seem to help it. Will he be this way forever or will he learn to control this part of him. I have had to teach myself (which I don't always do) to be calm and patient. Very hard for me and daddy some days. Patience is the top part of the list when it comes to ADHD. I was always a patient person before I had children. Now, I have to refind that patience and refine it.
After having such a great day with him on Monday, I was expecting to come home to a peaceful night. I don't know why, living with ADHD is more like a rollar coaster ride than a peaceful walk in the park. Luckily, he stormed off into the living room and saulked this time. A step in the right direction? Or collecting strength. But just like that he came back out to me in tears, "I'm sorry, mom. I take back the last part. I love you." Astonished, I just stared at him. What? So then he says "Didn't you hear me? I said I love you!" I told him I loved him too and everything I do is because I love him. "So can I have that candy now?" Ha, there it is. I'll tell mommy something she wants to hear to get my way. No, I said, not before dinner. And the cycle started over again.
I think the part that scares and worries me the most is the temper. For a 6 year old, he looks and gets evil. He knows what he is doing is wrong, but can't seem to help it. Will he be this way forever or will he learn to control this part of him. I have had to teach myself (which I don't always do) to be calm and patient. Very hard for me and daddy some days. Patience is the top part of the list when it comes to ADHD. I was always a patient person before I had children. Now, I have to refind that patience and refine it.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Little Man's plan
Yesterday, I tried something a little different than normal. I let Little man plan most of the day, instead of going on our normal schedule (which was screwed up with the holiday anyway). He ran with this idea. I kind of did this as an experiment to see how he felt with more independance but also to get an idea of what his mind is actually like. Boy did I learn.
Our day started out by having a picnic in the backyard. He picked out the food and drinks and carried the blanket. We sat and ate and talked for a good 10 minutes before he got bored. So we picked up the blanket and went back inside. He finished most of his food. Then he wanted to go back outside and throw the ball for the dog. Originally this activity was scheduled to last 2 hours by his words. About 15 minutes into that, he got bored so back in the house we went. Then it was off to the park right up the block. Plus, he said I had to take my camera (which I was gonna do anyway) so that I could take pictures. He played on each toy once. This means we were at the park for 10 minutes, and then he got bored. All of this so far with walk and making meal time had been about an hour. Then he wanted to watch "IronMan", his ultimate favorite movie right now. Next thing I know, I am waking up from a short nap (like 20 minutes or so) and he is in his bathing suit. Time for the pool, mom! So off we went. He loves the pool. So we actually stayed in there for about 30 minutes before he got too cold. A little while later, back in he got. Then to top his day off, he was invited to go see fireworks with his best friend and her family. While I was getting him ready to go he stopped and said "Thanks for the best day ever, Mom!" It warmed my heart. So much, that I didn't even make him pick up his toys and clothes.
Two things I've learned from this:
1. I think I need to let him have some time to plan his own days. I'm not saying everyday, but I think the release from the structure for a bit helped him realize why he needs it.
2. I also got to see how his mind works. It is very fast paced in there. I can totally understand why he gets upset when words get stuck in his head....why he starts talking and can't finish a sentence because he can't remember what he was going to say or can't grasp the right word. Why he has trouble sleeping. I see the mind racing and the body trying so hard to keep up. It was very interesting.
I want to say that he and I had one of the best days since his diagnosis. I think he enjoyed being "in charge" and I enjoyed letting him pull me along for the ride. I have always loved my Little man, always. But now I love knowing what that little mind does and maybe lets me understand him and ADHD a little bit more.
Our day started out by having a picnic in the backyard. He picked out the food and drinks and carried the blanket. We sat and ate and talked for a good 10 minutes before he got bored. So we picked up the blanket and went back inside. He finished most of his food. Then he wanted to go back outside and throw the ball for the dog. Originally this activity was scheduled to last 2 hours by his words. About 15 minutes into that, he got bored so back in the house we went. Then it was off to the park right up the block. Plus, he said I had to take my camera (which I was gonna do anyway) so that I could take pictures. He played on each toy once. This means we were at the park for 10 minutes, and then he got bored. All of this so far with walk and making meal time had been about an hour. Then he wanted to watch "IronMan", his ultimate favorite movie right now. Next thing I know, I am waking up from a short nap (like 20 minutes or so) and he is in his bathing suit. Time for the pool, mom! So off we went. He loves the pool. So we actually stayed in there for about 30 minutes before he got too cold. A little while later, back in he got. Then to top his day off, he was invited to go see fireworks with his best friend and her family. While I was getting him ready to go he stopped and said "Thanks for the best day ever, Mom!" It warmed my heart. So much, that I didn't even make him pick up his toys and clothes.
Two things I've learned from this:
1. I think I need to let him have some time to plan his own days. I'm not saying everyday, but I think the release from the structure for a bit helped him realize why he needs it.
2. I also got to see how his mind works. It is very fast paced in there. I can totally understand why he gets upset when words get stuck in his head....why he starts talking and can't finish a sentence because he can't remember what he was going to say or can't grasp the right word. Why he has trouble sleeping. I see the mind racing and the body trying so hard to keep up. It was very interesting.
I want to say that he and I had one of the best days since his diagnosis. I think he enjoyed being "in charge" and I enjoyed letting him pull me along for the ride. I have always loved my Little man, always. But now I love knowing what that little mind does and maybe lets me understand him and ADHD a little bit more.
Monday, July 4, 2011
Is sugar the enemy for ADHD?
4th of July. One of the best weekends of the year! But unfortunately one filled with over the top sugar! For a child with ADHD, this can be the drug that makes the evil come out. I am currently on a diet that includes very little sugar. I have been trying to pass this down to Little man. Its difficult. And since this weekend was filled with an Air Show and festivities galore, it made it ven harder. Yesterday, Little man got to see the fighter jets. At 6 he has decided that he wants to fly for the military now. Yes, I know he's young yet but whatever gets him going. Not a lot of sugar since we brought all of our food. He was an angel (considering we were out in the sun ALL day.) Today, I thnk I've got this under control. Fearing last week that my husband and I were going to have to put him back on his meds, I think we may have found something to get us by for awhile. I am still a little afraid of the drugs. He reacted really well to them, but had no appetite. Little man has ALWAYS been in the 5% in the weight category, so I didn't want him to slip to far. What do you other parents think? I know sugar does things to kids, but a for a child with ADHD it seems to raise the issues higher.
Saturday, July 2, 2011
Peaceful
After the night we had 2 nights ago, I was praying that we had a peacefulone last night. And we did. Thank goodness. Little man was back on his sleeping pill and was out by 7:30...and is still sleeping now at 7:30 in the morning. I think what I have learned through this whole ordeal is that kids are kids, no matter if they have this monster or not. Every day is different, it is just that parents with children that have ADHD tend to have extra issues that pop up during the day. I really don't have anything to write today. I worked all day yesterday and Little man had summer reading program and got to hang out with one of his favorite neighbors. The little bit of time that I did have only consisted of one arguement with him on listening. Good luck this weekend. I will try to write another post this weekend. Independence Day weekend may distract that from happeneing though.
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